Hello beautiful souls,
I want to speak into something that I feel is becoming more common in healing and spiritual spaces, something that deserves loving but honest attention.
We are living in a time where spirituality is trending. The language of healing is everywhere, tarot cards on coffee tables, affirmations in bios, shadow work hashtags, astrology memes, and even therapy-speak dripping from the mouths of people who haven’t actually sat with themselves.
But here’s the truth: not all who appear spiritual are actually on a path of awakening.
Some are simply performing the role.
Let’s call this what it is: performative spirituality.
An aesthetic, a persona, a way to feel important or enlightened without ever doing the actual work.
The Rise of the “Healing-Aesthetic” Persona
These individuals often:
Speak in scattered spiritual buzzwords, but struggle with grounding or presence
Interrupt, overtalk, or dominate spaces meant for sharing and connection
Use “support” people like props or buffers, unable to hold their own energy
Avoid vulnerability through distraction, humor, or excessive storytelling
Drain the space of coherence and clarity by spiraling into chaos
Their energy might feel loud, chaotic, even theatrical.
You may leave the interaction feeling confused, depleted, or doubting your own clarity.
You might even question, “Am I being pranked? Is this a real session?”
If you’ve ever felt this, trust your knowing.
Your nervous system felt the disconnect before your mind could name it.
The Truth Beneath the Chaos
What’s often underneath this behavior is deep wounding and unmet needs.
But when pain goes unacknowledged, it can morph into performance.
And when spirituality becomes a stage instead of a sanctuary, we stop growing.
We keep seeking attention instead of healing. We stay in the loop of needing energy, not integrating it.
Not everyone who walks into your healing space is truly ready.
Some come to be entertained. Some come to drain. Some come because they are addicted to talking about healing but afraid to truly surrender to it.
And as a guide, healer, or spiritual space-holder, you are not obligated to carry, fix, or tolerate this.
You Have the Right to Discernment
This is not about judgment. This is about discernment.
You are allowed to say no.
You are allowed to cancel a session.
You are allowed to protect your gift, your energy, your peace.
Spiritual service is sacred work. You are not here to be someone’s emotional landfill or energetic punching bag. You are not here to entertain chaos disguised as awakening.
You are here to serve those who are truly ready to awaken.
And those souls will recognize you. They will feel your presence. They will come in humility, not performance.
To Those Still Masking Their Wounds with Spirituality
If you find yourself always seeking attention, hopping from healer to healer, constantly needing others to hold space for your bigness without being able to sit still or feel silence…
I say this with love: it’s time to go inward.
Take off the sunglasses.
Get quiet.
Meet yourself beneath the layers.
Your spirit doesn’t need an audience. It needs your honesty.
This work isn’t always pretty. But it is powerful.
And when you show up real, grounded, and open…
That’s when the true healing begins.
With love and fire,
Genevieve, The Awakening Midwife
The Awakening Midwife 